When I told my husband that I didn't feel that he felt bad enough about his porn addiction, acting out and about how I felt; he said that for the first time in ten years he didn't feel like he had to repent before giving a priesthood blessing, that he could ask for inspiration while preparing for a lesson and that he felt really happy. He was trying not to live in shame. He said, I'm sorry you're behind me and in the anger phase. I can chose to be sadder if you want."
How do you answer that? Obviously, since I've only known he lied to my face for 22 years and is a porn addict for less than 4 months I might be a little behind him in processing. I think if he was capable of more empathy he might be a little sadder. It's hard being married to an emotionally stunted man. Because he's changed a lot in the last 4 months I forget that he still has addict thought patterns and lacks empathy.
That quote made me laugh. :)
ReplyDeleteYep, those addicts start to feel a lot of hope and happiness when they start recovery. And we are left trying to put our world back together.